tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post4441968692559857962..comments2023-10-11T06:59:02.178-05:00Comments on Here We Grow Again: Mavery Musings & things no one told meShannonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17746735954722210856noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post-11780499918906752542009-04-22T08:10:00.000-05:002009-04-22T08:10:00.000-05:00Perhaps people do not write about it, because then...Perhaps people do not write about it, because then it would be facing it in front of everyone, perhaps it is because when we adopt we feel WE need to put our best foot forward and seem like it is glorious and wonderful so more people will feel compelled to follow, maybe, just perhaps it is because in our writing we need to escape a bit of reality and rememebr the good. Perhaps it is because we feel we should have more compassion, more caring, more love and more patience with our adopted children because the procss is not easy, it is long, it is expensive and we are supossed to treasure more these gifts that were so much more complicated to come by. Maybe it's because people in general have a notion that we adoptive parents are in some way more special, more capable and better at this whole parenting thing-and we feel we need to live up to that notion. Then again maybe it is just because we need to convince ourselves that we are doing the best we can...maybe<br /><br />And by the way may I just say I TOLD YOU SO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />Shannon I am impressed by you and your willingness to believe and to talk and share, I am impressed by the woman you have become and the woman you continue to grow into. I am impressed that you care so much about your children-no matter what and no matter at what cost and I am deeply impressed that you continue to educate yourself, and you follow throug hwith options, and that you stand up for what you know your children need and that your values are your first line of defense in raising your family. I am proud of you and your ability to use your love in such a positive way. Thank you for being my friend, I treasure the way you challenge me to be a better person!Our House of Fivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18216643063302173535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post-27213570896381253392009-04-21T18:11:00.000-05:002009-04-21T18:11:00.000-05:00I will pray for you and Mavery. She looks so ador...I will pray for you and Mavery. She looks so adorable in her pictures, it is hard to believe her behavior. But as the previous posts stated, I am sure you are not alone.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04226235212704241802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post-68614962962872044122009-04-21T06:27:00.000-05:002009-04-21T06:27:00.000-05:00Shannon! You are not alone! My 5 year old does m...Shannon! You are not alone! My 5 year old does many of the same things. I have begun taking one problem issue a week at a time and working on that. She usually begins to get it in a few days and then the rest of the week I reinforce. <br /><br />I agree it is so hard to find a balance. I think I have gotten the point across to Jorja that Mama loves even when she is time out.<br /><br />We are still working on Jorja learning to let little sister help her. Oh, we get a "simple" temper tantrum when Jailyn wants to help her. <br /><br />I agree- we should blog more about the tough times too. I have blogged about this and was told that I was whining. <br />whatever! <br />I am working on a new post about the good, bad, and ugly too. :)<br /><br />Praying for y'all!Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06737851959223104150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post-85389851095666710842009-04-20T22:27:00.000-05:002009-04-20T22:27:00.000-05:00I'm praying for you Shannon - I know God will work...I'm praying for you Shannon - I know God will work all of this out. I'm sure things will get better when you can get out of the house! Let's just pray that is very, very soon! Give her a hug for me!<br /><br />Love ya<br />debAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19751590.post-52582528340166772622009-04-20T22:22:00.000-05:002009-04-20T22:22:00.000-05:00I totally understand every word you say!! Ava is ...I totally understand every word you say!! Ava is a year younger but we deal with many of the same problems. The car is a nightmare and she is totally bored and nothing will hold her attention.<br />She is a living tornado at home and I can never clean or work on anything, the boys have to do homework behind a closed locked door! She has no attention span what so ever and cant sit for 5 seconds unless she is strapped in her highchair eating. We really want to take a road trip this summer and get away for a week but I cant even imagine being in the car for more than two hours with her. TV or movies dont hold her attention so that does not even help on long trips. Anything you hand to her she drops on the car floor. <br />I hope it gets better with age, we love her to death but boy has it turned everything upside down in our family. There is no such thing as baby proofing for her!! ha Also at naptime and bedtime nobody in the house can make a peep. She is such a light sleeper and always on high alert that anything well wake her up and thats it!! She has been home almost 10 months and the night time routine is very hard, she just does not sleep well at night which makes for grumpy parents. :-) It is slowly getting better but not fast enough. ha I am very happy at the gift God gave us and believe it or not I really want to go back some day and do it again. Like you said in a year we will probably look back and laugh but until then some days are pretty hard.<br />Thanks for your honesty and if you ever need to talk let me know!Mei Mei s and Mayhemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17267201977228237756noreply@blogger.com