Wednesday, August 07, 2013

DTC = Dossier to China!!!

 FOUR months of paperwork and prayers are what this pile contains! In case you have ever wondered WHAT takes so long in an adoption, well here is half of it! 

We found out today we are officially DTC! This means that all of our paperwork is off to China! (paperwork pile is called our Dossier) And what this really means is that NOW we can be matched with a child! 


I have that feeling I had before my ultrasounds while pregnant. Waiting for that first glimpse of what our future would hold.  Is it a boy or is it a girl? And in this case, is it a baby or is it a 10 year old or is it somewhere in between? Is it ONE or possibly TWO children? 

We wait in expectation, full of hope. With hands open ready to be filled, 



knowing the Lord is writing our story and soon we will see how HE has filled our pages! 




Monday, July 29, 2013

Never Ending Paperwork


Trying to settle back into life after China.

Enjoying the last month of summer.

And working hard to get that paperwork TO CHINA for our adoption.

Our government approval finally arrived on 7/17.

We then sent everything off to Chicago to be state certified and then on to the Chinese Consulate to be authenticated.

This process has taken F.O.R.E.V.E.R.

BUT we are finally very close. The next step is for everything to go to our agency.

THEN it goes to China.

And THEN prayerfully we will find out who our child is!

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Adoption Paperwork Update


Unfortunately there is not much to report. We are on day 40 of waiting for our approval from the government. (AKA I800a) 


We have done everything WE can do. We had to re do quite a few pieces of paper work, which is super frustrating. But just part of the JOY of the state I live in and the rules of the game. 


We are still waiting for some of the "redone" pieces of paper, and then it will all be off to the right states to be stamped for approval. Then to our agency so they can begin working on our dossier. THEN it is off to China. Had hoped it might be off before now, but trusting in God's plan. 

So we are close to having that part done, prayerfully with in the next month? The good news is, when you are getting ready for a China trip, it helps pass the time! The bad news is when I return from said China trip, it will make the wait even harder to bear I am afraid.

Coming up, a recap of summer so far and it is OFF to China!!! 

Friday, June 07, 2013

Fingerprints Done!

During adoption mail delivery is like Christmas. 

Every day I hold my breath when the pile of mail is brought in. 

And Thursday I did a happy dance to see our fingerprint invitation arrived!

Today, Friday morning, we walked in to the Federal Building and they allowed us to be printed early. (Appointment was not till the 17th) 


 As we wait on the approval we are just crazy busy with finishing up the paperwork to mail off to various states for state seals saying they are all valid. For the record we have paperwork going to Illinois, Missouri, and Minnesota. Thank goodness no Pennsylvania this time! :-) I have piles on top of my piles. Just trying to check it all off. 



Things have really moved along very quickly, and we pray that they continue to do so. We have no doubt that our child is waiting. And while we do not know who that is exactly, it is still an amazing thought to think OUR child is out there. So while I try to be patient, when I picture that MY daughter or son is sitting in an orphanage, it sure puts me on my knees begging for those miracles. 


Asking for the miraculous as we wait for this last approval before we can officially send everything to China. And for the record, 22 days before I leave for China. The chance of this paperwork being done by then... 
Praying to see MIRACULOUS. 

Monday, June 03, 2013

Update on Paperwork

The shirt sales took over everything for the last month but they are now DONE!

My order was for 187 shirts. Is that amazing or what??

I will be spending next week shipping out all those shirts, AND folding tons up tightly to take with me to Chenzhou!

The hurry up and wait of adoption is still going.

I can't believe I did not post that we got our Illinois approval!

IN LESS THAN ONE WEEK!!

They did question a few things, so I thought for sure we were in trouble and would be waiting.

But God!!!!!!!

We quickly applied for the I-800 (government approval) and that is what we are currently waiting on.

We will be invited to be fingerprinted, and then we will wait some more.

I was told the "average" wait time is 40 days but it could take up to 90 days.

We are on day 14.

Of course we are always praying for miracles. So a fingerprint appointment NOW would be good. Really want to have all of our paperwork out of our hands before I leave for China. And I am believing that CAN happen!

We are still not matched with a child. We do not know who our child will be. We are just trusting that the Lord does.

We can't wait to find out!

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Chenzhou Shirts for Sale!

This year for our orphanage donation we would like to raise funds to pay for Therapy Equipment for the children. Part of our efforts in raising the funds are these T-shirts for sale. We hope that you will consider purchasing a shirt to help with the equipment, but also to wear our story. Spreading the word about the precious children in China and why we go. 

To order a shirt please visit my Chenzhou blog by clicking 

HERE. 
**If you are not interested in a shirt but would like to purchase one for a child or nanny at the orphanage, you can purchase one and designate it to them. 

Sunday, May 05, 2013

Clearances Cleared!

WOO HOO!!

Pennsylvania came through!

Ok, I totally know it was all God, but since I put PA down in the last post I figured I should give them a bit of credit.

But really, look how God works!

I prayed and asked everyone else to pray that those clearances would be in my mail before Monday.

Thursday, nothing.

Friday, nothing and a bit of worry they would not be there.

Saturday, I go out and the mail has not arrived. I text Mark and ask him to please pray that when the mail arrives, the clearances are there. Pray now.

5 minutes later I walk out and THEY WERE THERE!

LOVE seeing God show off like that.

That phone call on Monday said 6-8 weeks.

But God!!!!!

So thankful and feeling excited to see what else is going to happen here.

The next prayer is that Illinois would have a quick turn around.

We waited 6 weeks for our approval last time.

2 weeks is my prayer this time.

Or less.




Wednesday, May 01, 2013

Homestudy SO close


So what is happening in paper purgatory you wonder? NOTHING. Well nothing enough for ME to be excited about. 

Last week our Pennsylvania clearances arrived at the house. When I saw the envelope I was so excited. Till I opened it and saw it said we were REJECTED. Why you ask? Because I did not list our parents names as having lived with them. WHY would I think they actually want my parents names for MY child abuse clearance? I quickly RE filled it out and sent it off. Today I called to see if I could check on the status. The recording said to expect a 6 -8 week wait and the call volume was high so call back later to speak to a representative. 

Pennsylvania, I will never reside in your state again. Unless by some miracle that form arrives before my final meeting with my Social Worker on Monday. And then I probably won't reside in you anyways, but I might not be so angry. 


We also had a scare with one of Mark's blood tests. Not a scare about the test because we knew it was wrong. A scare that it could cost us an extra 6-8 weeks. Praise the Lord a re-test at a new lab and all is well. We are done with everything WE can be done with. Just waiting.



 On Monday I meet with the Social Worker for our final visit and then she submits the homestudy to the state. Maybe Illinois will pleasantly surprise us. 
 This part is just frustrating. YES I know it is in God's hands and I don't doubt that. BUT the fact of how backwards the system is infuriates me. When you KNOW there are children waiting. In this day and age we are still handwriting forms and mailing them back and forth. Kids in school get textbooks on their IPAD but government forms are handwritten. I don't get it.
So, that is that. Besides adoption, life goes on. 2 months from today and I will be back to my beloved China for our mission trip. We have a busy summer as always. Life slows down for summer but gets crazier all at the same time. I know that I plan to enjoy it to the fullest with the five miracles that are here knowing that life is going to be so, so different the following summer. 

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Processing the Process

So, how IS the process going?

And HOW does the process go?

It goes. And it goes slow.

Though overall I guess it is moving along.

So far we have:

Met twice with our Social Worker. 2 more meetings to go.

We have been fingerprinted by Illinois AND cleared with in 2 days.

Go Illinois! I never uttered those words in the previous adoptions.

We have had clearances come back from Illinois, North Carolina and our local police department stating we have never been arrested. Still waiting on Pennsylvania for their clearance. Boo PA, you get last place.
(this is because you have to have a letter from every place you have lived, thankfully we quit at 3 states)

We have filled out a 28 page autobiography each.

Have watched 10 hours of online training and 4 hours of in person training.

Have solicited for 5 referral letters and 2 guardianship letters.

Have copied every financial paper (taxes/insurance) in our house along with all employee letters, special doctor letters, etc and so on.

Have obtained all marriage (that would just be one) and birth certificates.

Finishing up all doctors (each person in house) visits this week and next.

We have promised and shown our smoke alarms all work, we don't have a pool, we don't have guns, our animals are vaccinated, we don't beat our children, we will give them healthy water, we will allow social workers to visit us for the next 5 years, and that we will pay an insane amount of money to do all of the above.

Check, check and check.

This part I can handle. I am a really good list maker and a fair list checker.

Once the homestudy is written, prayerfully by the end of this month, it will move on to state level to be approved. Go Illinois? (PLEASE!?)

THEN we apply for a teeny tiny very important piece of paper that I am certain is going to be my nemesis. This would issued from our federal government. Deciding if we are suitable to adopt a child. Believe me, the irony that the government decides this, in their timing, does not escape me. (adopt babies, we put you through the ringer. Abort babies, step right up. What is wrong with this world?) We will just pray. Pray hard that we would find favor quickly. But quickly is most likely months.

When that gets back, we get all of the millions of gathered papers, state certified and authenticated. Or in others words we pay a whole bunch of money to have them stamped at the capital of Illinois & the Chinese Embassy in Chicago.

After that, the papers are China bound!

When will we get matched with a child? Good question. I do have to say, since I have done things both ways, this way IS easier. With Sage we had our paperwork in, received referral. Mavery we found and THEN started paperwork. Emotionally drained us.

So, right now I am ok waiting.

And THAT is the only time you will probably EVER hear me say that.


Wednesday, April 03, 2013

HOW can you adopt AGAIN?


Yes, we ARE adopting.

Again.

Yes, we realize that will make 6 kids.

For some, that seems a small number.

For others, it seems CRAZY.

HOW in the world can we bring home another?

And all I keep thinking is…

HOW CAN WE NOT?

The Lord has had us on a journey of prayer these last few years. Do we adopt? Do we help others adopt? Do we MOVE to China? Do we go on mission MORE?  We have questioned and wondered. We have looked at  children's files, and God made it clear, these were not our children.

I have traveled to China THREE times to work in an orphanage. Through the first trip, and even the 2nd I felt that maybe another adoption was NOT in our future. Maybe orphan care was what we were being called to do.

It made sense. 5 kids, 2 adoptions. A STRONG calling to be a part of that orphanage IN China. 

Because I DO realize we can’t adopt them all.

And I DO realize there is MUCH more to orphan care than JUST adopting.

Oh how I WISH that more would realize this.

I LOVE going to China and working in the orphanage. Honestly our family KNOWS it is what we are called to do.

But this trip, I also knew that the Lord was calling us to more.

How can I walk the halls of that orphanage, how can I hold those children and KNOW there are MILLIONS more just like them all around the world and then say no?

How can I pretend that I have done enough when their little souls are dying there.

Seriously DYING. 

Did you get that? There are CHILDREN sitting in orphanages. RIGHT NOW. We need to stop pretending that it is not happening.

How can we say we are too busy, too tired to poor, too ANYTHING when I have held children who ASK for a family? Who will never know anything besides life inside those 4 walls.

How can we NOT say yes to more?

We just have to say yes. 

YES to bringing home more.

YES to WHOMEVER the Lord has already chosen for our family.

YES to how we know HE is writing our story.

He has penned the pages of this story since day 1.  

He has placed a burden on us for the orphan for THIS reason.

So that we would be open to our 6th child.

We don’t know who it is, but HE does.

And we can’t wait to find out!


Monday, April 01, 2013

A few questions answered



-We have signed a contract with Madison Adoption Agency.
-We do NOT have a particular child we are matched with.
-Yes we are going to China for a special needs child.
-We are open to boy OR girl, 0-12 years old. J
-I AM still going to China in July, of course.
-AND will continue to be connected with that orphanage. Trips will NOT stop. We just need to pray through the options. 
-Kids are thrilled, though they each have an opinion on who our new child should be. Ranging from older boys to babies that I could put inside my belly to another middle child, to kids we love and pray for and everywhere in between.
-No we do not have the money for another adoption. Remember Dave Ramsified?  Hopefully we learned enough through that to do this with little  no debt. 
-Fundraising? Am I ever NOT fundraising?? 
- We are not sure on timeline but we are guessing we will be traveling early next year. 
-YES Mark actually DID agree to this! :-) The fact that after pictures yesterday he said NEXT TIME we adopt... did not escape me. 
-How, why, WHAT, all to be answered soon! 

Sunday, March 31, 2013

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

China Bound!!!

TOMORROW, I begin my journey. I will be staying overnight in San Francisco. We leave from there on Friday at noon. I can't believe in just a matter of days I will see...
 Her
 And Him

And oh yes, her! 

Along with all of the others that hold my heart in Chenzhou. Join me over at my travel blog. www.teamchenzhou.blogspot.com

Thursday, February 07, 2013

Makenna gets her Driving Permit

 Hard to believe that our oldest is driving. On a permit. She will not officially get her license till November. She has NEVER been behind the wheel and so we did have to FORCE her to get out there. Doesn't she look thrilled?
It did not take long for her to get comfortable behind the wheel. 
I am not sure if I will EVER get comfortable with her behind the wheel.

Praying LOTS of protection on her, and everyone else on the roads. :-) 

Saturday, February 02, 2013

China on my Mind

In 26 days I board a plane to start my journey to Chenzhou.

I fly from here to Chicago to San Francisco where I will spend the night before we fly out for China the following day.

 I am a bit worried.

 This will be the first time I fly alone out of St Louis. If you know me well, you know I am a bit..directionally challenged. The GPS even confuses me. Lead a team in China? No problem. Ask me to find my way out of a parking garage, we have issues.

I am the one who has to take a picture of where I parked the car so I remember.

The one who walks out of the hotel and no matter how long we are there, I will never remember which direction the elevator is.

This could be a problem considering I have about an hour in Chicago to find my next flight.

And then I have to find my luggage in SFO and find a shuttle to take me to a hotel.

Oh well, at least here I can ask questions and be understood.

Plans are being made, suitcases are being packed and weighed to see how much more I can squeeze in. This stupid rule of one checked bag is so annoying. Though I guess in reality I will appreciate that rule this time around.

Picture me trying to handle 2 suitcases, a carry on and my backpack alone. THAT would be fun.

I have been in contact with Chenzhou who tells me "they can't wait to see us".

I can hardly stand it I miss the kids so much.

If you have not had a chance to check in at my Team Blog, please do! On the top tabs you can meet my March team. You can buy a necklace which is how we are paying our way to China TWICE this year. You can find out more information on how YOU can go with us in July. We still have room, we are praying for more people.

AND you can meet some of the kiddo's who wait at Chenzhou. OR meet the ones who won't wait much longer. My heart is full this week. Can't wait to share more.

26 days and counting!!!

Saturday, January 19, 2013

Shane is here!

 My brother arrived home from China on January 4th. He has not been home in almost 18 months. Thankfully I did see him in July while in China. He is only here till mid February. As you can see, 2 little girls were super excited to see their uncle. One quietly adores him while the other bowls him over. :-) 


               
                   He is a little tired, can't even hold his eyes open. :-)

I love this. Sage is typically not one to show her feelings much, but she was so happy to have her Uncle here. 


Welcome to America, Home of the super sized portions! 

Since he has been gone for so long we have to celebrate a bunch of things. We took my parents out for their 40th anniversary and also celebrated my dads retirement from Barnes.



It is good to have him home. We are so proud of him and his commitment to the people of China. 

Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year 2012

We had such a fun New Years Eve this year. My friend Christy suggested a Progressive Dinner and it was such a blast. Unfortunately I did not take pictures besides our house. We went to 4 houses. One house hosted Appetizers, where I was already stuffed for the night before I left. The next was soup and Salad and THE best lemonade I have ever had.Third house was main course with a HUGE spread of pretty much EVERYTHING. Then we ended at our house with dessert and ringing in the new year. And I should add that my friends are not so much night owls so while we got them to stay till midnight, at midnight oh one they were all rushing out the door.  I, on the other hand was up cooking breakfast at 2am. :-) It was a blast and I hope that it is a tradition to stay. 






I tried a new dessert that was HEAVENLY so thought I would share the recipe here. I found it on allrecipes, YUM! 
The only change I made was adding heath bar pieces in the layers and sprinkled on top. :-) 

1 (19.8 ounce) package brownie mix
1 (3.9 ounce) package instant chocolate
pudding mix
1/2 cup water
1 (14 ounce) can sweetened condensed
milk
1 (8 ounce) container frozen whipped
topping, thawed
1 (12 ounce) container frozen whipped
topping, thawed
1 (1.5 ounce) bar chocolate candy
DIRECTIONS:
1.Prepare brownie mix according to package directions and cool completely. Cut into 1 inch squares.
2.In a large bowl, combine pudding mix, water and sweetened condensed milk. Mix until smooth, then fold in 8 ounces whipped topping until no streaks remain.
3.In a trifle bowl or glass serving dish, place half of the brownies, half of the pudding mixture and half of the 12 ounce container of whipped topping. Repeat layers. Shave chocolate onto top layer for garnish. Refrigerate 8 hours before serving.

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas 2012

My Family

 Annie joined our family for christmas! 

Uncle Ray shared an interactive Christmas Story. 

 My brother joined us on Skype from China! 
 The kids did the Left Right Nativity Story. It was hilarious. 
Cousins so happy to be together! 
 Christmas Jammies! 
 I am not sure when this was but she looks Christmasy. 
 Spoiled Kids. 

Crazy Kids! 
Marks family