Monday, April 28, 2008
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Posted at 10:00 PM
This is my daughter, you may not recognize her, but I do. Her face is engraved already on my heart. And I Just need you to know, I am not happy. In fact, I am MAD! In china sits my Mavery. Who has now waited almost 30 months of her life for a mommy. And in your office sits you. Doing what? I know it is not sitting and processing my I-600 to turn it into an I-171, which of course is what you should be doing. I have tried to be patient, I really have. But I am now to the point of frustration. Do you realize I am not proud to live in Illinois at this moment? My friends in a neighboring state? They had their I171 back in less than a month. They also did not have to have their home study go through that silly extra step that made me wait even LONGER for you to begin to process my I-600. And Idaho? They are the smartest state ever, 2 WEEKS! And I just don’t understand. We had to WAIT for our fingerprints to get back, which held us up in the beginning. THEN we had to WAIT for our HS to be approved by the state of Illinois, which held us up. We had to WAIT to get our 2nd set of fingerprints, so we could WAIT some more. And so now here we are stuck WAITING. 24 weeks ago I laid eyes on my daughter. 18 weeks ago we had our first fingerprints done. It would be different if we waited on ME to do anything. But oh no, I KNOW why I am doing this. I know that this child is more important than anything else I could be working on. I have a few ideas on how you could make this process better.
**Put a woman in charge. (no offense men) AND the rule should be, she MUST be a mother and she must have adopted. Because only then would she understand the heartache of waiting parents.
**We are paying you A LOT of money to process this piece of paper. And these are CHILDREN we are talking about. Children who wait w/ no families. I would think if anything deserves it’s own job, it would be this. One person who simply approves children to come into the US as a citizen. How hard is it really, we already had all these other steps approve us, what else has to be done?
We are good people I promise. Maybe you have heard stories such as we let a hamster run loose in our house for months. But that should just go to show, how much we believe in freedom of speech! And how NICE we are! We COULD have let the cat run in the basement. The cat who we took in who just showed up on our doorstep. See, we are so nice we take in stray animals! But did we let that cat eat that hamster? No, we just cut off all of his food supply till he was forced to come out of hiding. But that was GOOD. We caught him! That is of course till he died in the cage from being locked up.
Or maybe you have heard that we have no control over our youngest daughter. That we had to install a “cage” on her bed at night to keep her from crawling out. It is not really a cage, honestly! It is just a tent, that zips and I promise you, she loves to remind us to “zip it mamma”. And all those stories of her running races on the dining room table or covering herself in marker or toothpaste or singing her new favorite song nobody’s perfect? Well we really do believe in creative expression. We believe she is going to grow up to be something big, I promise. And we DO have control over her, in a roundabout sort of way….
We DO love Jesus, does that count? Hmmm, maybe not, you are the State.
Oooh, how about this one. I HOME SCHOOL my children, doesn’t that count for ANYTHING? I mean come on, you should KNOW I am insane to keep FOUR Kids home with me all day EVERY day. Well, not insane, I AM sane, so you should trust me to parent another child. But you would not want to drive me over the edge by keeping that little tiny piece of paper from me any longer would you? Come on, do it for the kids?? By the way, I am thankful to Illinois for good home school laws. BAD adoption laws, but home school laws good. Keep up the good work! ;-)
Well no matter what you may have heard, China has approved us. So if you don’t get it in gear soon, I am moving to China, that is it. That is my final offer. And if I go, I am leaving the animals behind, so THERE!
A mommy who wishes she lived in Missouri or Idaho right now…
**For those wondering, we applied for the I-600 and our reciept said we filed on 2/11. We found out they did not start processing it till 3/10. So the counter actually began w/ the 2/11 date. Our home study was held up in Illinois when it went through dcfs. I guess I need to change the counter to reflect the 2nd date. We have not been able to locate any number we can contact w/ out a receipt number, which we were not given. Our Social Worker told us we are not allowed to question it till AFTER we have waited 12 weeks. She says we can expect it after May 5th.
**Will update on the diving fundraiser soon. Want to gather a few more pictures and such.
Posted at 5:30 PM
We can't wait for today, Diving for Donations for Mavery at the Y! I will take my camera, I promise!
Posted at 8:44 AM
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
I know I have said it before, but we have the BEST friends EVER. Honestly, we really do. Over and over again I am reminded how blessed we are. You remember a few weeks ago our friends that we traveled to China with WON our navigation system raffle? They had made a VERY generous donation through our chip in which we were just so thankful for. In fact I had called her to ask if she had accidentally typed in that number! hehe! "She said of course, it is what God told us to give." So their number won when we drew numbers. We had not mailed it because they had been out of town etc. So today she emails me and said, they wanted us to KEEP the navigation system, sell it and put the money into our adoption. How nice is that? I am just in awe over and over. In tears over and over. Blessed..
Posted at 5:59 PM
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Makenna won First Place for Design and Sawyer won 2nd place for Speed. Thank goodness, because I was not sure what was going to happen if one of them won something and the other did not! Mark enjoyed working with them on it, I had to wonder was it a dad race or kid race? hehe! We were thankful to Mark's dad for cutting out the guitar car and to my mom for helping Makenna decorate it. They are already talking about next year car designs. Top secret of course!
Posted at 9:46 PM
Friday, April 18, 2008
Posted at 3:57 PM
About 10am we were at church for a playdate, and sitting on the basement floor. I thought I felt the floor shaking, but no one said anything so thought I was imagining it. Then my phone rings and Mark was calling to ask if I had felt that? He said his chair bounced across the basement floor and our ping pong table fell. So much excitment for a Friday! I had to laugh when Jenny (our childrens director) told me she woke up to the quake this morning thinking Jesus had come back for her birthday! THAT would have been some birthday for sure! ;-)
So all is well so far for us and the kids homeschool lessons for today will be all about earthquakes!
Posted at 12:57 PM
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
**Warning, if you are an adoptive parent easily offended, don’t read on! ;-)
I read an article recently on some site that was supposed to help you prepare for adoption/travel/your new child, etc.. And I came across this article under a section called whats hot, titled, “Getting rid of gotcha”. Interesting. For those of you who don’t know, Gotcha Day in adoption world, typically refers to the day you meet your child. And so I read the article and once again have found more “rules” in adoption world I just had no idea about! Honestly as I read it thought it was a joke. No, sadly it was true. Apparently saying Gotcha Day is offensive. Maybe you all know this, I must be slow to catch on to these things. Some parents refuse to call it Gotcha day, so they refer to it as
Forever Family Day
“child's name” day
And the list goes on.
The article said “ when you catch a mosquito, you say Gotcha. How awful that we use the same term when speaking of our children.” Are you kidding me?
Here is what I have learned. Some people have WAY more time on their hands to dissect the silliest things! Are we seriously that worried about the term we use for that day? Wow! I honestly just had to laugh! Who really cares WHAT we call it? Does it really require writing a magazine article to warn new parents NOT to say gotcha?
August 21st, 2006, God handed me the most amazing gift. I GOT my Sage! WE became a forever family. My life was changed in only ways that God could have ordained. It is among the most memorable day of my life. YOU can refer to it as whatever YOU want, and I will happily refer to it as I want. It is a day I will celebrate till the day I die, and I could care less if it is labeled “Sage’s gotcha, metcha, forever family, placed in her parents arms, planned from the beginning of time, she is a Laxton, Day!”
I guess the thing to me that I just don't get is this. How can we even care what it is called? How can some people look at that day and really worry about the terminology that was used for it. I look at August 21st 2006 and the name is NOT what pops into my head. My daughters face, the way she felt when I finally held her in my arms, the smells, the look in her eyes, THOSE are the things I think about from that day. I can still FEEL the way I felt on that day, the way she felt in my arms. I can promise you, it did not feel as if I was swatting a mosquito! ;-)
So before anyone leaves me a comment telling me I am going to ruin my childrens lives because I don't worry about these things, don't bother. If you want to get rid of gotcha, you go ahead! I have MUCH more important things to worry about like, how can I will an I171 into my mailbox, or how can we possibly get to China near the Olympics or, how can we change the world so every orphan has a GOTCHA day which actually means they all have families! Those are my worries.
Posted at 8:57 AM
Monday, April 14, 2008
So were the kids sad? They just wanted to know if they could dig up the backyard and bury him. We read that dwarf hamsters only live a short time, so I guess it was his expiration date. THANK GOODNESS we found him when we did or we would have been in trouble. Oh and can you imagine had I actually sold him to some sweet kid at my yard sale, to have him die on them a week later. My oh my.
One of my friends suggested today that we should stick to kids rather than pets. Probably a smart idea! The good news is, we now have TWO cages to go in our next yard sale pile! HA!
Posted at 11:38 PM
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Look at those cheeks on her! Only a waiting momma can get excited over a glimpse of her little ears! Look how THICK that hair is! You know I am already figuring out what bows to take with me!
Look to the right hand corner, see her coming in! As if to say, don't forget me, my mommy NEEDS my pictures!
Look at that face, isn't she precious!
I am sure Mavery will be so excited to see that I posted her photo wearing split pants for all the world to see!
A family traveled to Jinhua for their daughter and that is how we were blessed with these photos. Their daughter is in the pink and blue that is a little smaller than Mavery. She apologized that there were not more clear of their faces, but can you even imagine the chaos of that moment going on! We are SO thankful for any little tiny glimpse of our precious girl, we are happy with pictures of her backside! Even the side of her face makes me smile. I have studied every teeny tiny detail of these pictures over and over. Where oh where is my I171??
Posted at 8:56 AM
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Posted at 12:03 PM
Saturday, April 05, 2008
Jenny & Michelle wearing Mavery spirit!
Queen of Yardsalers, shopping for a new hat?
Let the shopping begin!
Wow, wow, WOW!! I am not even sure where to begin. I am so overwhelmed and blessed and tired and excited and WOW!!
Ok, so here is how it went down....
Friday we had to be up early to drive to the funeral of my sister in laws mother. Please continue to hold her in prayer. So hard.
We had Megan here babysitting for us. Who had also been here the night before while we attended a banquet. Thank you Megan! While we were gone, she said there was a party going on at our house! Our childrens director came w/ pizza. my mom came to help. Our youth pastor came w/ youth and they carried up the ENTIRE basement of stuff to the garage! YEAH! My friend Renee showed up while we were gone and worked for us, also bringing along food and fun for everyone! They all loved you Renee!
We got home just in time for our Team to show up and WORK some more! We started about 6, and I think it was about 11 when everyone left. We tried to set almost everything up that night, and then covered tables in plastic. We finished the evening w/ prayer. Thank you Amy!
Today we started early. And those who left my house late on Friday, were back at my house at 6:30 today to work. My prayer was, please Lord, let people show up, and please Lord, let your glory shine. Sure we need money, but most important, let us show your love to these people.
Well we had people, LOTS of people! Team Mavery was in full force for sure! My cousin Amy made the cute little name tags, we all wore those in honor of our girl! Aren't they great? The kids were thrilled, they got to have a hot dog stand and had so much fun doing that. We had to threaten them not to knock on the neighbors doors to try to sell them hotdogs!
So, what you all REALLY want to know, WHAT IS THE TOTAL right? We did not keep track during the day. We wanted it all to be a surprise. Our yardsale queen(Amazing Jan, who did SO much work, thank you thank you, thank you) said her goal for us was $2000. I said I would be happy w/ $900. My friends doing check out said they guessed we had made $1300 or $1500....
We made over TWO THOUSAND DOLLARS!!! Praise God! And we still have a few hundred dollars worth of stuff we are pretty sure we can sell online plus another small sale we are doing at the end of the month in a busy subdivision.(we live in the country) God is good, He really, really is.
As I watched this whole day unfold, this whole project unfold, I was just in awe. I could never, NEVER have pulled this off alone. No way. And I thought, who am I, to deserve to have this outpouring of love poured upon us? I am sure not that great of a friend, I can't ever repay anyone for all they have done. And God just whispered, they love you, but they do this because they love ME! And they love Mavery. A little girl, who sits in China as an orphan, but each one of these friends BELIEVES she is supposed to be home, a Laxton, our daughter. So we are once again humbled and blessed and thankful and happy. We got our SON-Shine in more ways that one!
Posted at 4:33 PM
Friday, April 04, 2008
Posted at 11:17 PM
Wednesday, April 02, 2008
They are making signs, and just being SO encouraging. They are even offering to be here EARLY on saturday! We are so, so thankful for everyone who has helped us out. We can't say thank you enough for all everyone has done for us.
Today as going through the stuff, we came across some sheets and a bedskirt. A brand new bedskirt still in the package. Well, I have been needing a bedskirt, I ruined my old one by drying it. And trying to figure out how I was going to find one to match the comforter we had. Guess what? The brand new one in the yard sale pile? It is the SAME bedskirt I had! It is not just a plain one, it is one that matched the set! Isn't that just like God to give us those sweet little surprises in a pile of yardsale "stuff"! Which is kind of like this whole yard sale. It is ALOT of work for sure. but the blessings I have found in the friends & family helping out are just so sweet.
Posted at 2:12 PM
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
Posted at 10:27 AM